Friday, September 25, 2015

What I Would Tell Myself About Marriage Six Years Ago

Tomorrow, September 26th, Will and I will celebrate our 6th marriage anniversary. In some ways, the years flew by in a flash and other times I feel like we've been married forever. (not in the bad sense but in every good way). You can read about how we met here.

Every year since we have gotten married and as each year passes, I really treasure the day of September 26, 2009 and look back with such strong feelings of love and hope. I remember the pure giddiness and excitement knowing what this day meant for one another. What our future would hold. I could never have conceived that our lives would become what it has, then. Sure, I knew we wanted to start a family but I certainly had absolutely NO idea what that would entail and how it would truly all play out.

Six years is sort of a funny stage- we've crossed the 5 year mark and six years is not exactly a big milestone anniversary, such as 10 or 20 years. But I got to thinking about this whole marriage thing and the things I have learned about marriage in the past six years. I decided if I could tell my 23 year old self these things about marriage, it would be this:

1.) The annoying (did I say annoying? I mean-er, quirks) you find in one another- you can NOT change. He will still leave his socks RIGHT by the hamper- or balled up under the couch despite numerous times those said socks have bounced off his head after being thrown at him.

2.) Watching him with his children will make you see him in a whole new light

3.) You're going to disagree on the way you parent even though you had lots of talks together before kids about how you feel it should go. The important thing is to keep talking about it, when you think you have the whole parenting thing figured out when something changes and you have to reevaluate the situation all over again. The best thing of not knowing what the heck you're doing- is not knowing together.

4.) Don't keep score. Who took the trash out last. Who put away the dishwasher.

5.) Your love will change. It will go from crazy, heart beating butterflies, put your best foot forward to a more mature, committed, you are my person- I've seen you at your worst, kind of love. But don't worry- it's not a bad thing. It's actually a better thing. A perfect example- how even our texts change. From little hearts and smiley faces and flirting to quick updates throughout the day- "Pick up the kids," "What's for dinner?" "Headed to the doctor" quickly filled our message inbox instead.

6.) Along with that, you will find new things that make you fall in love all over again that will catch you at the most unexpected times. It will hit you so hard that it will take your breath away.

 Happy 6th Anniversary to the most hard working, selfless, and loving man I know. I love you and the life we have created together. I can't wait for many more years together.

Love you long time ;)